So, I have quit my job and I’m going back to school in September. Yay me! (This is where you cheer for me as well.) I have decided to start from the beginning again and do a second bachelor’s, this time in electronics engineering. As you might have guessed, due to society pressuring masculine-oriented people into math/science and feminine-oriented people into other realms, my class will be all cis-male. At least, that is what I expect based on the students that I met when I visited the school. I did not meet even one cis-female student there. So here comes my dilemma… as a gender-queer, masculine-inclined person that was born with bio-lady bits, what am I to do in terms of identification?
Let me preface this by saying that during my tour around the school, the woman I was having the meeting with me, kept introducing me with masculine pronouns, even though she had read my CV which states that I am, in the eyes of the law, female. As we went to the different classrooms, she would say “this is Becky, he is an American and thinking about starting school here in the fall”. This is ok with me, as I have stated before, I don’t mind what pronouns people want to assign to me, whatever makes them most comfortable is ok. However, here is where I want to take on the myth that people born with a uterus aren’t as good at math or science. So, therein lies my dilemma… do I introduce and self-identify as female when I meet my professors and classmates or do I stick to my actual identity of gender queer? I would like to break the stereotypes that people have that cis-men are more skilled with numbers but, at the same time, I want to be true to my own gender identity.
What do you think? What would you do in my situation?